So here is where I am, It only fixed it for a short second. It is now broke again.
I then went to init 3 and didapt-get auroremove --purge xfce4 xfce4-panel xfce4-session
after that I did a dist-upgrade (like a good kid, in itit 3) then i installed xfce4 again. Trying to log in I get the same results:
For me I get a super super slow login to a blank unusable panel and a desktop. from which the only recovery is a lightdm restart
for my new user I get a fast and typical login.
I tried copying all login files making sure to change permission from new user to my user. only change is there are now 2 blank unusable panels. Again, from which the only recovery is a lightdm restart
I did some thinking and some poking around. I found the siduction files in /usr/share and copied all the configs from siduction-settings-xfce to my .config folder. assigned it permission and tried to login. now I get siduction splash and eveything goes fast till it says performing autostart, and xfce crashes and sends me back to lightdm.
I then removed the new apt source, removed and purged xfce and my config files and then reinstalled 4.8. SAme thing is still happening although with a correction. if you wait long enough it will eventual get you a super slow desktop. upgraded to 4.10 again, same deal. my new user has no problems, my user is fucked. I don't understand